What to Expect in the Early Days Postpartum: A Survival Guide for New Moms
The birth of your baby is a monumental moment, one that brings joy, excitement, and new challenges. The early postpartum days, however, can be a mix of emotions—sometimes overwhelming, sometimes blissful, and always transformative. While you may have prepared for labor and delivery, the days that follow can be unpredictable. That’s where the importance of support and preparation comes in. As a postpartum doula, I’ve seen firsthand how a little guidance and understanding of what to expect can make all the difference in those first few weeks.
So, what can new moms expect during the early postpartum period? Here’s a survival guide to help you navigate the physical, emotional, and practical changes in those first days after birth.
1. Physical Recovery: Healing Takes Time
Your body has just gone through an incredible transformation, and it will take time to heal. Whether you had a vaginal birth or a cesarean section, the recovery process is unique for every woman. Here’s what you can expect:
Vaginal Birth Recovery: If you had a vaginal birth, you may experience soreness and swelling in the perineal area (the area between your vagina and anus). You may have stitches if you experienced a tear or an episiotomy. It's important to follow care instructions for perineal healing, including warm sitz baths, cold compresses, and proper hygiene.
Cesarean Birth Recovery: If you had a C-section, your recovery will focus on your incision. You'll want to avoid lifting heavy objects (including your baby) and take extra care in getting up from lying down. It’s also common to feel soreness around your abdomen, and your energy levels may be lower than expected.
Bleeding (Lochia): After birth, you will experience vaginal bleeding called lochia. It can last for several weeks, starting out heavy and tapering off over time. This is completely normal, but be sure to monitor it closely—if you experience heavy bleeding or clots, reach out to your doctor or midwife.
Breast Changes: Whether you're breastfeeding or not, your breasts will go through some significant changes. You may experience engorgement, soreness, or tenderness. If you're breastfeeding, it’s normal for your nipples to feel sore as you and your baby adjust to the nursing process.
Fatigue and Exhaustion: Exhaustion is one of the most common postpartum experiences. The sleepless nights, recovery from childbirth, and demands of caring for your newborn can leave you feeling physically drained. This is a time when self-care and outside support are crucial.
2. The Emotional Rollercoaster: Navigating the Ups and Downs
In addition to the physical changes, your emotions will likely feel all over the place. After all, you’re adjusting to a new life while also managing hormones, sleep deprivation, and the stress of a newborn. Here’s what you might experience:
Baby Blues: It’s common for new moms to feel teary, moody, or overwhelmed during the first few weeks postpartum. This is often referred to as the "baby blues" and is due to hormonal shifts as well as the physical and emotional strain of childbirth. These feelings typically subside on their own after a week or two.
Postpartum Depression: If feelings of sadness, anxiety, or hopelessness persist beyond the early weeks, or if they become more intense, you might be experiencing postpartum depression (PPD). It’s important to seek help from your doctor or a mental health professional if you suspect PPD, as treatment can be highly effective.
Bonding with Your Baby: The first few weeks are a critical time for bonding with your baby. You may feel an immediate connection, or it might take some time to build that bond. Both experiences are normal, and you shouldn’t feel pressured to feel a certain way.
The Importance of Support: This is the time when support from friends, family, and professionals can make all the difference. A postpartum doula, like myself, can offer guidance, emotional support, and reassurance. Don’t be afraid to ask for help—it’s okay to need support during this transitional period.
3. Practical Tips for the First Few Weeks
While physical and emotional recovery is important, there are also practical aspects of life with a newborn that you’ll need to manage. Here are some tips to help you feel more prepared:
Accept Help: Don’t hesitate to accept help, whether it's from your partner, family members, or hired help like a postpartum doula. This is a time when self-care is not just about bubble baths, but about ensuring you get the support you need to heal and adjust.
Sleep When You Can: Sleep deprivation is real, but finding small windows of time to nap or rest when the baby sleeps can help you manage fatigue. Don’t worry about housework—your priority is recovery and caring for your baby.
Focus on Nutrition: Eating nutrient-dense meals is essential for recovery, especially if you are breastfeeding. Keeping healthy snacks and meals on hand can help you stay energized. Consider meal prepping or asking friends or family to bring over meals during the first few weeks.
Stay Hydrated: Especially if you’re breastfeeding, staying hydrated is key. Keep a water bottle nearby and drink often.
Know Your Limits: It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, and it’s okay to take breaks. If you need time to recharge, ask for help and step away when necessary. You don’t need to be "super mom" right now—self-compassion is key.
4. A Doula’s Role in Postpartum Care
A postpartum doula plays a crucial role in helping new mothers navigate the early days after childbirth. Here’s how a doula can support you:
Emotional Support: Doulas provide a listening ear and reassurance. We understand the ups and downs of early motherhood and are there to offer guidance and help process emotions.
Physical Support: Doulas can assist with baby care, help with breastfeeding, and offer advice on newborn care and recovery. We can also assist with light household tasks to help ease your workload.
Newborn Care Tips: Newborns can be confusing at first—doulas offer practical tips for soothing a fussy baby, establishing sleep routines, and getting started with breastfeeding.
5. When to Reach Out for Professional Help
While the postpartum period is full of adjustment, it’s important to recognize when you need professional help. Reach out to your healthcare provider if you experience:
Intense, prolonged bleeding
Severe pain in the abdomen or pelvis
Signs of infection (fever, chills, redness, or swelling around an incision)
Difficulty breathing or chest pain
Persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or anxiety
Conclusion: Trust Yourself and Your Journey
The early days postpartum are filled with challenges, but they are also a time of deep connection and growth. With the right support, both physically and emotionally, you’ll begin to navigate the changes that come with motherhood. It’s important to be kind to yourself, accept help, and trust that this transitional period won’t last forever.
Remember: You are doing great. The early days may feel like a whirlwind, but each moment is part of your beautiful, unique journey into motherhood. Don’t hesitate to reach out if you need support—whether it's for emotional guidance or practical advice. As a postpartum doula, I’m here to support you every step of the way.
